In today’s fast paced society, it is impossible to avoid stress. In 2020-21 ABS reported, 15% of Australians aged 16-85 years experienced high or very high levels of psychological distress. Women were more likely to experience high or very high levels of psychological distress than men (19% compared with 12%). One in five (20%) Australians aged 16-34 years experienced high or very high levels of psychological distress.

Taking a long-term perspective, where you can see above and beyond your day-to-day activities is vital. By being intentional and making an effort to start with a clear understanding of the destination and where you are going, can create a sense of hope and purpose and facilitate growth.

Through careful planning and constant assessment and re-evaluation of our plans, we know where we are going, we can plan where we are heading and we can take time to see the bigger picture. This leads to a clear understanding of goals, dreams and your vision.

Just as the stagnant pond breeds disease, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Take a long-term perspective, determine a plan and assess/reassess your plan regularly.

For Couples, intentional effort focusing on our goals, dreams and your vision as a couple can lead to greater levels of intimacy.

For married or those in a long-term relationship, the focus of a relationship assessment tends to be preventive and educational in nature, while some couples interested in enriching their relationships use assessment tools as a means of learning more about their marriage. More often, evaluative instruments are used by counselors as a vital aid in marital therapy.

PREPARE/ENRICH is one relationship assessment that can help married couple with improving communication, reducing conflict and stress.

  1. Along with the core scales, PREPARE/ENRICH includes scales on Forgiveness, Personal Stress, and Personality for married couples.
  2. The standard Children and Parenting scale is interchanged with scales for Parenting Expectations, Becoming Parents, Intergenerational Issues, or Step Parenting when relevant.
  3. Health Issues, Role Transitions, Interfaith/Interchurch, and Cultural/Ethnic Issues are brought in when relevant for the couple.
  4. The Spiritual Beliefs scale is customised for Protestant, Catholic, or Jewish groups when indicated by the facilitator.

Tune in for more tips and ideas next week.


Do you need help with an issue or problem? Our approach helps to generate deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations can restore insight and understanding about one another.

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