In today’s fast paced society, it is impossible to avoid stress in our lives. A 2020 survey, near the beginning of the COVID pandemic estimated the prevalence of symptoms of depression was 28% and symptoms of anxiety 21%.

On top of that, if you are planning a wedding and add the enviable uncertainty of guest numbers, travel restrictions and COVID-19 rules and regulations, it may be impossible to avoid stress. In addition engaged couples have to deal with other external sources of stress, on top of the wedding plans such as work, career and income.

In looking at data of PREPARE/ENRICH engaged couples, the cost of the wedding is the number 3 overall stressor for engaged couples.

Two other items from the wedding items also made the top 10:

  • Decisions about wedding details was number 7, and
  • Feeling overwhelmed by wedding details was number 10 out of the 25 stressors reported by engaged couples.

Differences and disagreements are as inevitable in wedding planning as they are in marriage itself. This is a good time to learn how to deal with them.

Next week we’ll outline some strategies that you might find helpful to work through with your wedding plans.

Do you need help with an issue or problem? Our approach helps to generate deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations can restore insight and understanding about one another.


  • Fisher, J. Tran, T., Hammarberg, K., Sastry, J., Nguyen, H., Rowe, H., Popplestone, S., Stocker, R., Stubber, C., and Kirkman, M. (2020): Mental health of people in Australia in the first month of COVID‐19 restrictions: a national survey: Med J Aust 2020; 213 (10): 458-464.

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