In today’s fast paced society, it is impossible to avoid stress in our lives. For dating couples, external sources of stress around work, career and income are overriding stresses that couples try to deal with. When relationships are new and with compatibility high, relationship stressors or issues with their partner are ordinarily lower down the priority list.

Based on results from the first 20,000 couples to complete PREPARE/ENRICH, the top 5 stressors for dating couples were: 

    Your job
  1. Feeling emotionally upset
  2. Inadequate income
  3. Your partner
  4. Too much to do around the home

For dating couples, work and finances are key sources of stress, or external events which cause an emotional or physical reaction and changing one’s reaction to stress is often the only option. When a stressor cannot be eliminated, it is important to look at how one reacts or copes in response to the stressor. Learning and using healthy coping mechanisms can help individuals respond to stress in healthier ways.

For example, setting up and managing budgets is critical particularly when costly leisure activities and spending time with friends and family is of utmost importance.


Do you need help with an issue or problem? Our approach helps to generate deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations can restore insight and understanding about one another.

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