Here are a few ideas which may get you thinking of how you can do “small things often” and turn towards your partner to show them you are loving them intentionally. In turn these small things will add to your emotional bank account, deposits that create a stronger bond in your partnership.
A goal for you might be about the quality of time you spend together versus the quantity.
We have come up with 8 ways to be intentional with the time you have to spend with your family. Try using these motivations in your own household.
4. Date your partner – Most couples know that they are supposed to have regular date nights. I’ll be honest, in my season of life it’s hard to take time to go on an actual date with my wife. It’s not cheap to go out to dinner and hire a babysitter for three kids every week or month. Alternatively, putting the kids to bed and commit to a date night at home is something we can achieve.
Remember that these motivations aren’t all or nothing. Some days you will succeed in some areas and lack in others, and that’s okay. The purpose of setting intentions is to make your goals obtainable for you and your family.
- Hengchen Dai, Katherine L. Milkman, Jason Riis (2014) The Fresh Start Effect: Temporal Landmarks Motivate Aspirational Behavior. Management Science
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