It’s easy to get wrapped up in the idea that New Year’s resolution should result in a “new you.” But it’s our unique personality quirks that attracted us to our partners in the first place, and those traits are unlikely to change.

By focusing your time and energy on creating positive growth in yourself and your relationship, you set yourself up for future success.

In practice: The key to relationship harmony is taking complex tasks and distilling them into a short list that you and your partner can understand and remember. And that list should be no more than three, at most. The fact that there are only three seems to be the sweet spot for what our brain can remember day-to-day.

This skill – to create simplicity out of complexity – is important for relationship harmony. In intimate relationships, planning requires two respectful minds communicating to create solutions. Beyond positioning and compromise, seek to understand your partners’ growth areas, their needs and interests and find solutions to satisfy both.

List your three areas of growth and get moving on achieving your couple goals today.

Now, hold each other and yourself accountable for achieving your goals and make 2021 a year to remember.

Take the non-facilitated version of our assessment, called CoupleCheckup, at the start of the year, then retake it at the end of the year to track your growth and progress.

Tune in next week for more relationship tips and ideas.

Reference: PREPARE/ENRICH Couple Blog

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