The internet, mobile phones and social media have become key players in the life of couples, with many claiming they have had an impact on their relationship. In less than 5 years, digital technology has made itself felt in most relationships – in how couples communicate, grow closer, plan, fight and make up.

Whilst most say the impact is positive, in a recent survey 25% of couples suggest that their mobile phone distracts their spouse or partner when they are together.

Social Media refers to the use of web-based and mobile technologies to turn communication into an interactive dialogue including Websites, Blogs, Forums, Social Media Sites, Mobile Applications.

Couples use technology in the little and large moments. They may negotiate over when to use it and when to abstain. A portion of them quarrel over its use and have had hurtful experiences caused by tech use. At the same time, some couples find that digital tools facilitate communication and support. A majority of couples maintain their own separate email and social media accounts, though a smaller number report sharing accounts and calendars. And fully two-thirds of couples share passwords.

Tech use in 2019

  • 87% of Australians are on the internet (21.74M)
  • 93% of Australians access the internet for personal reasons
  • Average daily time online 5.04 hours
  • Access is increasingly on-the-go. People engage with a host of devices, platforms, and news sources, all throughout the day
  • Things like “going online”, “getting news”, or “talking politics” are continuous activities
  • Hard for ordinary users to recall and discuss specific actions they might have taken
  • Untangling the “impact” of any single device, article, event, tweet, etc. is really hard.


Research suggests that the impact of the internet, mobile phones and social media on couple relationships is either an important or emerging issue for many couples and understanding the influence and implications of internet, mobile phone and social media use on your relationship and the implications on your partner is critical.

Try this – Do a self assessment on why you are using online sites:

  • Do you spend more time talking to the opposite sex or particular individuals?
  • Spell out your expectations with others when online
  • Do not engage in intimate conversations with someone other than your partner
  • Share passwords
  • Set parameters around how much time and when you are online

Tune in next week for more relationship tips and ideas.

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The Couple Checkup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The Couple Checkup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy. 

The Couple Checkup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the Couple Checkup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.

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