Last night was rough. Home late from work, the traffic was bad, dinner was overcooked, kids didn’t want to have their baths or go to bed and then finally, after all of that, my wife and I sat down for our regular “check in” and we just stared at each other- blank.

We set aside time at the end of every (hectic) day for what should be an effortless (and rewarding) talk with each other, and yet we both felt like it was another draining task that needed to be completed before we could finally relax.

If this situation sounds familiar – you’re in luck! Checking in with your partner shouldn’t feel forced, but if you sometimes don’t have the energy to put into thinking of things to talk about, we’ve put together some conversation inspiration (and few things to keep in mind) for when it’s time to check in with your partner. 

Keep in mind every conversation doesn’t have to conclude with groundbreaking new insights or resolutions of big conflicts.

Conversation inspiration:

  • Be silly! Laugh! Enjoy each other’s sense of humor.
  • When was the last time you made your partner laugh?
  • What does your partner do that makes you laugh?
  • Talk about what fun things you enjoy doing together and apart.
  • Ask your partner what gives them a case of the giggles.

The future! 

  • Talk about hopes, dreams, goals, etc.
  • What hopes and dreams does your partner have for themselves? Your relationship? Your family?
  • Does your partner have a dream for the future you can start working towards together?
  • Maybe, you find out you both have the same dream?
  • What do you hope your future looks like?
  • How is it similar or different than your partner’s?

Share appreciations (if your partner reciprocates, it can be sort of self-serving, but it is in an intentional way that is crucial for relationship health).
Share what you appreciate about your partner.

  • Share appreciation for the daily tasks that your partner does for your family.
  • Ask your partner what it feels like to be appreciated.

Dig deep

  • Discuss forgiveness in your relationship.
  • Talk about your sexual relationship.
  • Discuss your results from the Couple Checkup.
  • Share negative feelings with your partner.
  • Talk about how you solve disagreements together.
  • Consider your relationship with money and how that may be different than your partner’s.

If you’ve been following the “check in” series here on the blog you know making time to talk to your partner is healthy for your relationship. But no one wants to force this type of interaction. Don’t feel like you are failing if you need some guidance early on to make checking in a habit. We all run into roadblocks. Checking in will strengthen your relationship, and if it’s not feeling natural already, it will!

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The Couple Checkup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The Couple Checkup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy. 

The Couple Checkup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the Couple Checkup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.

For more information on the use and analysis of the Couple Checkup or to simply use the tool, please contact: www.couplecheckup.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #couplecheckup #relationshipo