I’m busy. My wife is busy. We work full-time, we bring the kids here and there, we try to keep up relationships with our friends and after all of that, we barely have time for each other.
But this month will be different; we are making a commitment to “check in” and we’ll set some ground rules to keep us on track.
You might think I’m getting too formal with this, but the good thing is you can take all the steps we took, or just a few, whatever works for your relationship. Our rules are simple and are there to help remind us to be present. Here’s what we did:
- 15 minutes. Not 5, a full 15.
- No distractions – no phones, no TV, etc.
- Respect each other.
A “check in” is a place in time allocated to communicating with your partner, therefore make the most of it, stay focused and be present.
Once you make a commitment, be intentional with your follow through. Do what you need to prepare. And then watch your relationship grow and become stronger.
Just like any new intention, accountability increases your chances for success. Voice your commitment out loud (or on social media) to your friends and family, it might even inspire them to join you! Use #CommitmentToCheckIn to let me know if you and your partner decide to make a commitment to “check in.”
But this month will be different; we are making a commitment to “check in.”
A “check in” is a place in time allocated to communicating with your partner. This “check in” isn’t for discussing upcoming weekend dinner plans with friends, or school events, or who’s bringing the kids to practice Saturday morning. It’s time focused on just you and your partner. It can be a time where you have silly conversations, discuss your hopes and dreams, share what you appreciate about each other, dig into deep topics related to your marriage, or simply check in about each other’s day. Choose what works at that place in time.
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The Couple Checkup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the Couple Checkup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.
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