Go quickly down the following list of statements and indicate honestly your level of agreement beside each one. Compare your responses with those your spouse has made independently on another sheet. For those items where you both ‘agree’ or ‘strongly agree’ try to think of an example to share with your partner.

Note the items for which your response differs from your partners and in the next few days schedule a time (preferably after a meal) to talk constructively together about the topic and what you both could do about it for the benefit of the less satisfied partner.

Select ‘Strongly disagree’, ‘Disagree’, ‘Undecided’, ‘Agree’ or ‘Strongly agree’:

  1. I am very satisfied with how my partner and I communicate
  2. We are creative in how we cope with our differences
  3. We feel very connected to one another
  4. My partner seldom seems too controlling
  5. My partner is able to understand my opinions and ideas when we discuss problems
  6. Our sexual relationship is satisfying and fulfilling to me
  7. We have a good balance of leisure time spent together and separately
  8. My partner’s friends or family rarely interfere with our relationship
  9. We usually agree on how to spend money
  10. I am satisfied with how we express spiritual values and beliefs

If there are a number of items where you both scored ‘disagree’ or ‘strongly disagree’, arrange to talk as constructively as you can about items. Don’t attempt to discuss more than any one topic in a sitting.

Note: Consider getting the help of a qualified third party; don’t risk these issues becoming terminal.

Use #CommitmentToCheckIn to let me know if you and your partner decide to make a commitment to “check in.”

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The Couple Checkup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The Couple Checkup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy. 

The Couple Checkup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the Couple Checkup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.

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